Community Guidelines

A community where people can be themselves

sugarFRUIT is a community-first space centred on queer women, trans and non-binary people, and open to people who genuinely want to be part of a respectful, queer-friendly community.

People come here for all kinds of reasons — friendship, conversation, events, shared interests, community, and sometimes dating. Whatever brings you here, we want sugarFRUIT to be a place where people can participate without having to defend who they are or worry about being harassed for it.

You don't have to agree with everyone. You do need to treat people with respect.

Be kind. Be human.

Talk to people here the way you'd want someone to talk to you. Disagreement is fine; personal attacks, intimidation, bullying and deliberately hostile behaviour aren't.

There's a difference between a conversation getting a little heated and repeatedly making someone feel unwelcome or unsafe. We expect members to recognize that difference.

Respect people's identities

Use the names and pronouns people give you and respect how they describe themselves.

Racism, sexism, homophobia, transphobia, biphobia, ableism and other forms of discrimination or hate aren't welcome here. Neither is deliberately questioning, mocking or invalidating someone's identity.

Mistakes happen. How you respond when someone corrects you matters.

This is a queer-centred space

sugarFRUIT welcomes people with different identities, backgrounds and experiences, including respectful allies and queer-friendly people.

But this community is intentionally centred on queer women, trans and non-binary people. Participating here means respecting that. Don't use the community to debate whether queer or trans people deserve to exist, belong here, or have their identities respected.

Respect boundaries

No means no — and silence isn't an invitation to keep trying.

If someone isn't interested in talking, dating, meeting, flirting or continuing a conversation, respect that. Don't repeatedly message someone who has declined or stopped engaging, and don't try to get around someone's decision to block you.

Sexual harassment, unwanted sexual content, threats, stalking and intimidation aren't tolerated.

Keep private things private

Don't share another member's private messages, photos, personal information or identifying details without their permission.

Don't attempt to expose someone's identity, location, workplace or other private information.

Remember that people may be out in some parts of their lives and not others. Never out someone.

Be genuine

Be yourself and don't impersonate another person or deliberately misrepresent who you are in order to deceive people.

Don't use sugarFRUIT for scams, spam, unsolicited advertising, mass messaging or other behaviour that treats members as targets rather than people.

Community organizations and event promoters are welcome where appropriate — just participate like part of the community rather than turning every interaction into an advertisement.

Groups are shared spaces

Groups belong to the people participating in them, not just the person who created them.

Respect the purpose and tone of each Group. Don't deliberately derail conversations, repeatedly provoke other members, or make a Group uncomfortable for everyone else.

Group owners and moderators may set additional reasonable expectations for their Groups, but sugarFRUIT's Community Guidelines always apply.

Events should feel safe too

The same expectations apply when interactions move offline.

Be respectful at events you discover through sugarFRUIT and respect other people's boundaries. If something happens at a sugarFRUIT-listed event that you believe puts members at risk, let us know.

An event appearing on sugarFRUIT doesn't necessarily mean sugarFRUIT organizes, operates or endorses that event.

See something that's not okay? Tell us.

If someone's behaviour makes you uncomfortable or you think it violates these guidelines, use the reporting tools available throughout sugarFRUIT.

Reports aren't popularity contests. We look at context, patterns of behaviour and severity when deciding what action is appropriate.

Depending on the situation, we may warn someone, restrict access to features, suspend an account or remove someone from the community.

sugarFRUIT is for adults 18 and over, and we have zero tolerance for child sexual abuse and exploitation. Our Child Safety Standards explain what that covers and how to report a concern.

Help us build the kind of place you want to be in

Rules can only do so much. The community is shaped much more by how people treat each other every day.

Start conversations. Welcome someone new. Invite people along. Share something useful. Respect a boundary. Give someone the benefit of the doubt when it's reasonable — and speak up when something genuinely isn't okay.